The Lodge as a Stepping Stone
A post by Bruce Ario
At the risk of sounding unthankful I would like to say some people may find they don't want to live in a Lodge forever. The Lodge can be used as a stepping stone, not necessarily to something better; just something different. Not to a stair case; more like a path of stones across a creek.
I am eternally grateful for my five years in a Lodge at Tasks Unlimited. I needed to be in that situation in order to start my recovery. The Lodge gave me structure, friends, and a refuge from the world.
But that said, I tend to march to my own drum in some ways. I wanted the solitude of my own place. Being a writer, I need a special focus. I would have been unable to give my other Lodge mates what they needed. I was only able to get started in a Lodge.
It's not that I don't need interdependence, because I do. Now I get that at the jobsite, and my church. But I also need time to write - a solo thing. I needed time alone to assess my Lodge experience and to write about it. I don't like to think I quit the Lodge or outgrew it. I like to think I made a lateral move to my own place. And who knows, maybe someday I'll apply to get back in a Lodge.